Malai Neram_Marutham Version & a funny incident! What if you were me...?

PS:This post was to be posted weeks back..anyways here it goes!

Malai neram -My version & a funny incident!

Do take your time to listen to the TWO tracks & give ur feedback.

Click "HERE" for My Version of "You're still the one"

Click "here"for Malai Neram - My version, An Amateurs attempt -> Feel free to yell!

Its 100% an amateur's attempt!

What if you were me ... ? What would your reaction be?!

On a beautiful evening, I decided to go to one of the temple in my locality. I go for the darshan and pooja & then a few minutes chit chat with the priest.

Then I decide to come out & thats when i notice that something has gone missing.

ITS MY SANDALS!

I start looking for it. Its a small temple & the place wasn't crowded or anything ,

just a few people were there. And i had left my sandal in a convenient spot, its impossible to get lost..

After few minutes not knowing what to do, i go inside to tell ask the priest of what i should do now.

He was actually shocked to hear this.

He came running outside and exclaimed "In our temple?! It's not even crowded, it HAS to be somewhere here!".

Then he went out & looked around at all the ladies and said "Check if anyone has by mistake worn someone else's Sandals."

" FIRST TIME EVER IN THE HISTORY OF THIS TEMPLE - WE HAVE THE CASE OF A MISSING SANDAL! "

He along with the other aunties in the temple started looking around now searching for the MISSING SANDAL!

Wait wait wait... I then realize, i have missed out telling one MINOR important detail. Everyone is looking for a ladies sandal.

Oh ohhh... I missed telling you as well, din't I? It was my DAD's Sandal that i had worn that day.

After I crossed the age of wearing daddy's shirt - i changed my focus towards Sandals.Not just dad's but also mom's.

I give them even chances! ;)

So this fine day - i wear Dad's sandal and take a cool walk to the temple-to end up standing there totally embaressed now- wondering how am i going to ask them not to look for a ladies sandal but men's.

I now make some BRAVE move (knowing there are going to be some laughs!). I move in and gently tell the priest " Actually, It wouldn't look exactly like a ladies footwear....but...but..."

And thats when this aunty gives me a very WEIRD look & asks... "So how does it look then?U mean the one with no design or flowers?"

I do this little embaressed hehe... Some times aunties just dont get it do they?! "No aunty...its actually more like men's sandals. You know... !"

I cant hide anymore "... Its actually my Dad's! Its mens footwear!".

WHOAAAA! The whole bunch stops searching in the ladies section & looks @ me It now looks like everyone is looking Through the glasses & some almost Jaw dropped! Is it such a huge offence??

PLEASE! Like i broke the code of conduct to visit a temple!!?!

And thennnnnnnnnnn everyone starts laughing... including my friendly nice - uncle Priest!

Then one aunty asks "Such a big girl wearing daddy's sandal?"

ERRRRRRRRRRRRR! Whats with these aunties?!

See i am telling you...some aunties dont really get it -It's only now that my foot has grown enough to fit Dad's sandal.So WHY NOT?!! Such a DUMB QUESTION!

I manage to smile (hehe..) "It was a very short walk,so I really din't mind."( Now get back to searching or leave home before i turn you into ashes! )

One aunty kept looking @ me and went on giggling for a VERY LONG annoying time.

Now the priest smiled and said "May be its some guy who has mistaken your sandal,sorry! your dad's sandal for his! ;) He would get it back. I will let you know when he does"

Well that is all i can take...i decide to smile a bye & run far far away from the sweet giggling aunties!

Like a good girl I thank the priest & all the aunties for thier time in searching & some sweet aunties for their giggles & OUTSMART questions!

I come back home & tell dad the sweet news that I lost his sandals (Probably his favourite?! :( But not to worry, everything is under control. We got him a new one today - which definitely is my Favourite!)

Mom n Dad burst out laughing! I am left thinking.... "How nice of them to laugh instead of getting irritated that i lost something that i should not have worn in the first place, and definitely not lost!?!"

Dad's words were "What would you do?! Its not your mistake! :) " which means - NO ONE CAN STOP ME from trying his new sandals now! IT WAS AFTER ALL NOT MY MISTAKE ;)

**~~~ ADIOS! ~~~*

Thanks to the friend who rang the bell. :)

Sing in the rain ...I am swoinnnnnng in the rain...

Well.... life is like a music... Isn't it?

Sometimes sweet like a melody , sometimes a rock, sometimes a pop....

Trying to save my life from MUTE MODE, I decided to find some time to sing few songs!

"Sing in the rain ...I am swoing in the rain..."

Haha! No no... this ain't about vadivels comedy track. I have tried singing 2 of my favourite tracks and a Japanese track as well.

Do listen to them and let me know your feedback.

Nada sou- Japanese Song

Nada sou - Japanese Song!

Vaseegara- From Minnale

Vaseegara - from Minnale

Anal mela pani thuli

Anal Mela pani thuli

If you have trouble listening through these links...u can hear them here->> , Marutham's Tracks

With Swine flu around.... i wish u all a good health and a long life! AND DONT HARM PIGS! :P

A little out of context - if you get time you could watch "Definitely, May be..."-its a nice movie which i got to watch recently.

Cheers!

Marutham

PS:About the title of this post....for those of you who do not know what it means, its one of Vadivel's(a comedian) famous funny dialogue.

Anger 'N' Me!

Anger Management! :D

Hehe…. Well most of my friends would laugh if I say I am troubled seeing my anger (கோபம்). My college friends or school friends so don’t trust me when I say I get angry these days. I had never been angry then, I was this KEEP COOL always! After I left Bangalore I happened to get my own time to look at this new problem I Face – ANGER MANAGEMENT.
Yes! Honestly – I am troubled when I look at the angry person I am growing into. But one good thing I am a little happy about is – I am able to identify when the monster is about to come out. For some strange reason the “Good me” WARNS people around to leave me alone for sometime & I take my time out to tame the monster and not hurt people around. I am not sure if I do it with everyone but YES! Subconsciously this LIGHT GOES ON & I warn my mom, dad or the loved ones whom I do not want to victimize for this anger that is waiting to take a form. After am done doing that- I am quite surprised of how I knew it was coming & very tactfully avoided hurting loved ones. Ultimately I have identified it coming and controlled it but still I am surprised why I get angry more often than my college days. The work place may not be as warm as it could be, but off late I have managed to keep the place around me cooler than how it was when I initially came here. And to my surprise unless am forced to be rude I have managed to keep cool at work. Here is the funny incident that makes me Smile (a little bit shame hiding in it) when I think about it every time.

-> What is the best way to keep a check on your temper?
-> How do you manage ANGER?
-> Is it possible to be ABSOLUTELY ANGER FREE?

Angry me – a small incident on my birthday!

On my birthday I get a call while at work. The caller says “Ma’m, you have a courier to collect. I am waiting at your office gate”. It wasn’t one of the good days I was having at work. I was first puzzled because after coming to Chennai office no one but my dad knows this address. I was so sure that it’s not a parcel for me; I ask the guy whom it is addressed to. He says my full name with my last name. Surprised, I ask for the sender. That’s when the monster starts dressing up for the show, but I failed to notice it. He says there is just a Smiley ->  . I was so not able to smile on hearing that, I reply – I don’t accept anything from smiley. You can take the parcel back and cut the call. He calls me again and says “Ma’m I am still waiting – please come and pick up your parcel” And YES! The monster is out. “You don’t tell me the sender. I have told you clearly, I am not taking it unless I know the sender.” He said “Ma’m that’s not written.” Monster says “ Well, don’t you have an office? Do you take anything and everything from people & deliver? Call up your office and ask who the sender is, if you still do not get to know you can very well take it back because I would never come to pick it up unless you tell me who had sent this”
After almost 30 minutes since the first call this guy reveals the sender’s name whom I least expected. And this good friend of mine who was listening to the entire thing came to my desk and with a smile asked “Are you not going to pick it up?”
I tell him I do not like the whole idea. He said we would go pick the parcel and get back. After few minutes little reluctantly I leave with him to the Reception. And man I see this shaky guy with a basket of beautiful Dutch pink roses and a carry bag that had a cute teddy bear! I felt so bad when I saw how shaky that guy was – I looked at my friend and couldn’t help smiling (a sorry smile - you would wonder how that looks, trust me it aint the best smile! ;) hehe ). I went forward and said my name – this guy with a shiver in his voice said “Happy Birthday madam. This is for you”. I felt like banging my head on the wall that moment on seeing how much I had scared this fellow over the phone. I felt really very sorry & told him “Thank you very much :) and SORRY I made you wait so long. I was a little uncomfortable to take it not knowing who had sent it.” Man what a smile I got back!
We carried that teddy & flowers and walked back to the ODC. It sure would look funny carrying a teddy and walking around at work :P I couldn’t help my self from laughing at the whole thing. After we came to our seat my friend who helped me carry the flowers back, told me “Maruthu, you know what is expected from you in this scene? First thing, you should have actually got excited when there was a call on your birthday saying you have a parcel to be picked. Second, you should have got CURIOUS to go and see what the gift is and then enquire about the sender…BLAH BLAH! That’s how girls usually react on their birthday when they get a parcel. What has happened to the TAKE IT COOL Maruthu I saw one year back?”
His words made me think, not all that he said made sense but yeah to some extent he was right. I should not have reacted that way. I felt sorry. Myself and this friend were in the same batch during the training days – first month of my work. After a year and for the first time we were in the same project working together. I realized that I have changed from how I was then, I am not taking things as light as how I used to take. Is it for good or bad? My major concern is “My temper”. I am consciously trying to keep a check on my temper. I am doing my best not to let it go out of control. But it sometimes goes off….even before I could catch the monster. Trust me after I started to realize this – It has come down to a considerable level.

PS: Most of the time the good me – pops up like a warning message saying “Maruthu! NO! Don’t lose cool” And I never click on Deny button when that popup comes but always on Accept! But what if I fail to get those popups in future?

WORDS OF TRUTH – I never getaway just like that when I know I have been rude, I always get back and say “I AM SORRY! I shouldn’t have!” but I wish I never have to apologize but control my anger before it is late.
I am taking measures to control my anger - and I have brought it down to some extent now. I still would want to bring it down.....
Tell me how you win your anger!
Trying to be anger free,
Marutham! :)

Back to chirp... ;)

Hello everyone....

I am resuming singing after a long time now(After almost one and half years). Hope you like it...
And thanks a ton to all the friends who had wished on my birthday last week.
I am uploading my version of one of the favourite song which happened to be on loop in my player on most of my days while i travelled to work in bangalore by bus. The long drive & a hectic day in wait - did not turn me off, because the songs i chose to listen at the start of the day had that magical power. Trust me...there is nothing magical than a great music to start your day with a sparky smile. :)

This one helped me .... Do let me know if you liked this version of the song.


I have a dream by Marutham - BB
I have a dream by Marutham - Dial Up

PINK is power & we ROCK! :) Wishing every women a SPECIAL DAY ....

WOMAN - Such a powerful yet such a delicate word!
Every woman in this world is special. She is always special to someone - someone she might know she is special to or someone she doesn’t even know that he/she exists!

Women hood is bestowed with great responsibility. Some of the responsibilities we are yet to explore. A woman symbolizes – Great power, Endurance, Kindness, and a lot of patience!

Past few years I have met many women who had helped me learn what to be and also sometimes what NOT to be. For every woman who had helped me in this learning process, I take great pride to THANK them! Thanks to all the wonderful women I have met in my life – women who are my family, Friends, Peers, Colleagues & Great supporters!

PS: A small note to all my girl friends is that – with great power & freedom come Greater responsibility. Most of us know that. Never let your principles slip – because nothing in this world is worth for loosing your principle & sense. Know what you do & do only the right! Never complain for what you are, there is always someone to make you better –& stop looking around for that someone, she is right here- ITS YOU!

Last but not the least – there still are sincere – understanding and wonderful men who respect womanhood. I salute them all for being what they are! We respect you! By the end of the day- we are all only Human beings.

What to WRITE ?

After a good long Break ...once again am back to BUG :P
Life is never the same ... :) A little High 'N' a little Low
First thing first - :) Hope you all Had a Great Diwali ! I would like to wish (Belated*) all the newly married couple a very very happy Thalai deepavali.

Its been sometime since I wrote anything but scripts & some emails to loved ones. I even lost the habit of reading novel's after the completion of "3 Mistakes of My life" . Its not the book that made me stop but yeah my self & the kind of life am forced to lead. The kind of project I am in should never be the first project for any fresher & for that matter I wish such projects never even EXISTS! :P Insane huh?...try my shoes and you would not Disagree. Imagine 2 weeks of close to 14 hrs work EVERYDAY and Weekends too you are expected to show your face to your system. Fine, as long as you enjoy the work this shouldn't make you HATE to go to work. And I love my work - and more than that I love my friends here with me in this project .So work aint a big pain to me. I absolutely enjoyed my work & working late was not an issue either. But just few weeks back i had this very bad time. Nothing related to the scripts i develop but with one absolute FAKE i had put up with. I had been seeing everyone in my project as a good friend – I felt really lucky to get such loving nice people .And they are! From nowhere some people develop this Monstrous attitude that they just do not care if they are doing the right thing or for that matter - atleast things that thier conscience would not approve and for which one may not have to feel guilty LATER*.

I can tolerate anything but a FAKER. I just cannot stand such people. I do not make a scene or fuss about it but just cannot do that " Hey hi.. :) "- give a smile when you just did not like what they have become. Call me an idiot or whatever ... But thats how I am. If there is an issue I have with someone whom i know well, I believe in talking it over & figuring out a solution (I TRY HARD* because I really hate losing any relationship for silly issues.) For the first time when they do something stupid i try to tolerate. Second time , i tend to loose patience - so i let the other person know How i feel about what they are doing or have done. I try to understand if the other person has done it intentionally or by mistake. Mostly from the way they respond i get an Idea about what actually the other person has in mind. If its something that i may not be okay with, I simply stay away and avoid any further irritation. But MOST OF THE TIMES - I try to forgive, forget & move on (if it’s not a major blunder that they have done). There had been this person who had not been having a very smooth time & had continuously been irritating me in many ways & venting out her frustrations on me (I guess, Someone had left a wrong defintion for Friend in her Database!). Initial days I knew what she was going through and i felt only sorry for whatever is happening in her life. So i actually did not take it as an offence when she acts like Skull cracked. My best buddies who are now not with me back here in bangalore had always warned me – to stay away and actually not bother about this person. I should have listened to them. I did not… may be I could not, I was not able to.

(Pattaal dhaan puthi varum would hold good for me- but I just learnt a valuable lesson in life through this one – You do not always get what you give- you would also get something you may not have imagined – something which is ABSOLUTELY BAD in return. I try to give the best that I can – I do not demand anything back but I sure do not want any Non-Sense back.)

But then as days passed - this attitude of this person got worser and my patience towards her had been taken for granted. I kind of tried to comfort her whenever things get screwed up. I had tried to comfort her saying things would be alright soon, try doing this ... that... may be this should settle the issue and lot many times had been trying to remind herself of what her +'s are (It was pretty challenging to find them). Slowly as days passed - she had started targeting @ me making statements like - You do it quickly, You have already completed this - that , why are you doing things so fast, Slow down. Blah Blah. Well... that’s when i started feeling uncomfortable. This person was half the time wasting time in non Productive things which I did not opt for. I was not working in Super speed but she was NOT working – that was the problem. Each one of us has our own task & our own way of working. I have my own way - she has hers. There is no point in comparing. I did not quite like it, when the tone started to sound rather compaining. I realized my Help is not going to be of any use to this person if this is the tendency she has. At that point i told her that each one has thier own style of working and the way we do our work also differs. You work in your comfortable way & I would in mine. It is the quality of work that is important & yours is nothing less than mine. So do not bother too much - just do your work- do it happily. It did not seem to have been absorbed. She had been then trying to do things that would hurt me. And when I try to not make it an issue – be calm & ignore the stupidity – This person would get back to me saying ‘Sorry..i dnt mean to do that.Try to forget it… blah blah’. Whenever an apology was made I tried to forget & move on – although they did not seem sincere because it never stopped. As days passed- this person kind of started doing things that would not be seen too obviously but would end up leaving me hurt or irritated. It seemed to target my peace @ work. I was trying to ignore this and move on. But once i started doing that - it become even more challenging for this person to stop trying to irritating me. And as it got worser - I lost all my patience & just wanted to leave the place.I did not want to be around such people EVER! It was not worth talking to this person. How many times can I? I felt rather hurt for the kind of attitude this person had developed. Its the same way with few others but they did not seem to mind it much. I did not discuss this with anyone in my team as I felt it would leave the other person in embaressment. Also I could not digest the Fake anymore. This person was absolutely manipulative. And i could not tolerate such people.

I cannot pretend like nothing happened and move on as before with this person. One day my best buddy realized this and spoke to me -I did not realize am hurting myself for someone who is not Worth until our discussion that day. Many things got cleared only that day to me. This buddy of mine- she had been moving quite closely with both of us. She had observed that offlate everyone seem to have developed a distance with this person for some reason. I was lost in my own world of BLUES* for I could not believe people could be like this. I hardly bothered to take notice on this until that day. We all had been quite close, and we still are. She knew the whole thing even before I said it, may be that’s what true friends are- they know even before you say it, but she was only surprised for why i was feeling bad or rather upset while she acts like nothing happened. I could not figure out either... i did nothing wrong but I felt lost & blue. She said that I am leaving many people worried by being too silent & Pre-occupied.She said there was no reason for me to be that way- but that i need to understand some people are just STUPID. Now I am out of it. While I was terribly LOW, this person did not bother to give a word of comfort (I did not expect a sorry … but atleast some nice words could have been HUMANE) - but when i was back on track seemed rather worried about how I am out of it. She tried to make friends with me again.But GOD! I was Tired... this is not the first time & this time she had tested all my patience - Not anymore. I had to endup replying saying there is nothing we have to discuss ...Just move on. That was the MOST ETHICAL way i could imagine responding to a manipulative - stupid Nutcase!

I was left puzzled for having met someone like this. This person is one in a million – and I wonder how God could program such brains. It must have been his trickiest assignment. Till date I am not able to digest the fact – Inspite of you trying to be supportive some people use it when they need & with no regard take some other form later and behave like an animal and still expect you to forgive & forget. Well.... I just can't fake along. I could be stubborn in that may be too Stubborn. And am never regretting for that character of mine. I love myself when i make such stands but angry @ myself when I let such idiots upset me(*Only for a shorter span though - till i realise & get out of it) .And some way or the other my silence had made many of them more supportive - even those I least thought would sense that something is wrong. Thats the only comfort I had when i was in this (kind of*) depression & it helped me pull myself out through this Crap. Alright its over now :) and am out of it & I have learnt one more precious lesson in life.

What do you think about this whole thing? – Is it necessary to ACT like nothing happened when there are such camelieons? Is it a part of the WORK (un)CULTURE? Should you play along or do what you think is right & do what you would not feel guilty for later.

Life just keeps getting interesting ……

And am learning a lot!

So long Dear! :)

And am BACK (to BANG?!...)

Well.... Finally i have decided to pen down some of the things thats been running in my head since this JANUARY!

IT LIFE!
Well... The whole experience since joining Wipro had been remarkable & unforgettable. One of the fastest episode in my life would be this career START! Well to be honest in the first week after me joining the IT - i really did not find the reason why IT got all the attention & HYPE in our society! Am not going deep into that now. This was the first time EVER in my life for me to stay away from MOM & DAD so long. I couldn't survive a week without seeing them both, I was such a parent-addict!
And First time ever in life i stayed in a hostel. I remember few of my best friends tell me..."If you haven't been in a hostel. You have missed something major in your life." Well.... I din't miss that :) I got the opportunity to live in a Hostel (and am still enjoying that experience) & for many reason there is no blame on these friends who told me this. It wasn't bad after all... First few days was TERRIBLE for me. I couldn't bring myself to even answer my parent's call. That’s how much I miss them...

It started in Hyderabad - First level of training was successfully completed. Then when i was dreaming to head back to chennai they said we have our second level of training in Bangalore for few weeks. Then came too much confusion & now am in bangalore. I have moved to my second account now. I Miss the lovely people i had made friends with in my older account. But i do get to see them once in a while, or at least through mails we try to keep in touch. Well the second account was not a great start to me - one reason because I wanted to come back to Chennai if at all i was released from the older account. But now I have started to like this account very much & I actually am starting to enjoy the hectic days here. I always try to see that there is some reason for everything that is happening in my life, even when the worst things happen- i see that there is Something to learn from...some valuable lesson that demands you to be patient & smart to learn what is in wait. And i try to see it as a learning experience, and am still seeing it that way. I am a person who loves sleeping and I love to sleep till someone kicks me off the bed - can u believe i wake up @ 5 & start my work at office by 6. I am now working in the early morning shift & I do not get to leave by the 9:30 hours for the day, am not forced to stay back but you won’t be able to leave with too much of work left. (Something is seriously wrong with me! :P ) Am trying to give my best & it is to my surprise that when I enter the office – I forget all the irritation I have because of staying away from parents & I start working. That’s some magic I still do not understand. And my weekends are the only time left for ME… which goes in traveling to Chennai & then getting back to Bangalore, and the very little time left to have fun with mom n dad. I enjoy that … so I do not mind the tiresome travel.

In this new project, I have made good friends. After my Primary school days I could find the right set of girls to hang out with. Of course my college buddies are also special, but something is special now with these friends. And I was able to quickly bond with these buddies. Sometimes when the work is really irritating or the place is all heated up- it’s those dumb jokes we crack that keeps us going. So this is how my life is now…
I had been so out of touch with blog since my last post which I wrote before the completion of the training & now I know this is such a DUMB post.. but I do need a post to restart the journey ! I could not visit any of my friends blogs since then , for there was no time left for anything but to read during the training. I am hoping to be regular to blogs atleast from now…Lets see how I do it… J

And I wrote this post on the Sunday evening… yeah few more hours left for me to catch my train…
SOBS **

Ps: For those of you who struggle to wakeup in the morning…Try this Song ring as your alarm. You won’t dare to switch it off & go to sleep again: P
I have adopted this adorable one to help me wake up!